How To Create Your Own Bad Luck
Pound my knuckles hard against the floor.
My head against the wall.
But I did this to myself.
Assume it’s just not worth getting back up
So I’ll blame it on bad luck
and I’ll shake responsibility.
~ Blame It On Bad Luck, BaySide
Some people will argue that what happens to us it’s already been written by someone who has ultra-perfect goddess. I believe what happens to us (good/ bad), it’s we who invite them by our activities. Hell or heaven, everything travels with our footsteps. Yes! Good luck or bad luck, we build it.
• Compare yourself to others.
• Believe, you’ll never lose any argument.
• Read romantic novels and start thinking why you don’t have the same kinda romantic story.
• Judge yourself on others’ opinion.
• Think about the problem before it really starts existing.
• Make every problem bigger than and worse that it is.
• Practice negative self-talk.
• Look to the mirror, every time you read fashion magazine.
• Think it is crime to make mistake.
• Believe that you are nobody unless you are perfect.
Criticize Me – I Love It
Every human being has a desire to see himself as an important. And there are two ways, one can raise that feeling – either raising themselves up or pulling others down. As raising own self up isn’t easy, people follow the other route – let pull others` leg.
Q: But Roy, I never did anything wrong, then why?
How does it sound? You are standing in front of a bull and saying “Hey bull, I’m a vegetarian?” Does the bull would shake hands with you? No! It’s not the problem whether you are a vegetarian or non-vegetarian; the problem is that bull loves to charge.
The Hope, The Celebration, The Oscar
Oscar: the red carpet, the popular make-up faces, the swanky dresses, the celebration and tears.
But it’s also an event to widespread the hope—the hope to be yourself, the hope to live with the dream, the hope to break down the impossible, the hope to add extra in ordinary and make it extraordinary.
Let’s rewind the memory and zoom on the “Best Actor” category.
Finally, Jeff Bridges got the opportunity to thank his parents, for turning him on to such a groovy profession.
In the past 40 years, Jeff Bridges has been nominated for 4 times. But every time, he got nothing except the hope for the next time. And this year, his 5th nomination made his hope worthy.
Live With Your LOVE, Don’t Kill It
See what you lost when you left this world, this sweet old world;
The breath from your own lips,
the touch of fingertips;
Someone calling your name;
Didn’t you think you were worth anything?
~ Sweet Old World, Lucinda Williams.
Just finished reading an article and found that in USA, one person (preferably man) killed himself in every 17 minutes, on the Valentines’ Day.
For a moment, I stopped and started thinking: “Why we can’t get all the people together in the world that we really like and then just stay together?”
Yes, we need more “hellos.”
But it always doesn’t work. Someone always leaves. And yeah, when somebody leaves it makes a hole in our heart. We find new people, pain stops but the gap never closes. How could it be? The hole in your heart is in the shape of that special person and no-one else can fit it – no one!
You’re Criticized? Thank God!
I believe they can take anything from me
But they can’t succeed in taking my inner peace
They can say all they wanna say about me
But I’m gonna carry on
I’m gonna keep on singing my song
~ Singing My Song, Christina Aguilera
In his early days of learning piano, Ray Charles was once told by his teacher, “You can’t play piano and God knows you can’t sing also. You’d better learn how to wave chairs so you can support yourself.”
And today?
Forget about the recording of more than 60 albums or winning 12 Grammy Awards, being considered as the “Father of the Soul/R&B music,” Ray Charles is ranked #10 by the Rolling Stone Magazine on their list of The Immortals: 100 Greatest Artists of All Time.
Dropped Out? So What!
Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school. ~ Albert Einstein
Academically how rich you are? Dropped out or not enough to be excited? If yes, so what! Still you have the potential to be something significant … something influential, like:
Benjamin Franklin: One of the founders of The United States of America; co-author and co-signer of the U.S. Declaration of Independence. You name it, what he wasn’t: polymath, printer, satirist, political theorist, politician, scientist, inventor, civic activist, statesman, soldier, and diplomat.
Nothing That Is Perfect Breathes
Posted by Roy in Attitude, Perfection on January 11, 2010
Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.
~ Anthem, Leonardo Cohen
Have you ever thought that the world itself isn’t perfectly rounded? Right, there is nothing as perfect except perfect intentions.
Most important, nothing that is perfect breathes.
Being perfect is about to look at the mirror and feel proud that you didn’t let yourself down. Being perfect means doing your task with everything you could have— not a single thing that you could have done.
That’s it, when you give your every thought, every passion and every effort, as best you can, with every possible joy in your heart, friends, then you do a perfect job.
6 Rules: How To Guide A Happy Relationship?
Posted by Roy in Communication, Love, Relationship on January 1, 2010
Maybe the pessimist will say, “If Titanic can sink then what is a relationSHIP?” It’s my advice to them: “Please, shut up!” Maybe a relationship can be hit with some cyclic waves but still it can sail through, having happy ending. Here are the SIX rules to guide your relationSHIP to the satisfying destination what I call “ACCEPT.”
A [ATTRACTION]: Nothing comes closer if they are not attracted to each other. In science it’s the opposite but in real-life, it’s both—sometimes opposite, sometimes similarity. Find out what attracts you in that person, appreciate it and find new ways to make it more attractive.
You Ain’t A Failure; You Just Failed At Something
There are two ways we can tag failure in our life. First: “I’m a failure!” Second: “I failed at something!”
When we say, “I am a failure,” it indicates: “I’m the reason of this … it’s all because of me.” But when we say, “I failed at something,” it indicates: “It’s not me … it’s my action that fails. It’s not me!”
We all have failed many times although we mayn’t remember. We fell down the first time we tried to walk or ride a bi-cycle. We almost drowned when the first time we tried to swim, didn’t you?
Just think, did you hit a sixer the first time you swung the cricket bat? Forget about yourself, think about the following cricket greats.
Challenge + Response = Outcome
So tenderly your story is
Nothing more than what you see
Or what you’ve done or will become
Standing strong do you belong
In your skin; just wondering
~ Clint Eastwood (Jamie Cullum)
If it would become possible to buy any dream you wanted, would you try to buy? If yes, then why you never worked to achieve it?
Okay, I’m giving you the answer.
You force yourself not to go for your dream because you know—life is never easy for those who dream. It’ll knock you down; push you back and make you the reason to be laughed for.
Then your inner-voice whispers to you, “Better, don’t try.”
THE ATTITUDE
You know dear, there is a formula:
C + R = O
(CHALLENGE + RESPONSE = OUTCOME)
When you hit by troubles and find, you on the verge of getting blown away whom do you trust to lean on? When you need to find and bring out the very best in you, whom do you believe to talk to?
When you need to go beyond the extra where you think you can’t go, whom you look for help?
When you need to motivate yourself to take risks – to dare to live fully, to whom you depend most?
When you need courage to tackle “monsters” that may haunt you, to whom you crawl back?
Whom you depend most to inspire yourself to take charge of your own live?
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