You’re Criticized? Thank God!
I believe they can take anything from me
But they can’t succeed in taking my inner peace
They can say all they wanna say about me
But I’m gonna carry on
I’m gonna keep on singing my song
~ Singing My Song, Christina Aguilera
In his early days of learning piano, Ray Charles was once told by his teacher, “You can’t play piano and God knows you can’t sing also. You’d better learn how to wave chairs so you can support yourself.”
And today?
Forget about the recording of more than 60 albums or winning 12 Grammy Awards, being considered as the “Father of the Soul/R&B music,” Ray Charles is ranked #10 by the Rolling Stone Magazine on their list of The Immortals: 100 Greatest Artists of All Time.
Now, maybe you are thinking, if you have only BIG dreams, it’s sure you have to be criticized.
Hold on, criticism isn’t the matter whether you are a BIG dreamer or doing something BIG. You have to be criticized because you are a human being regardless what you think or what you do. Yeah, this is price we pay for being a HUMAN. And I believe, it’s worthy enough to be human because out of every 1,00,000,00 species of living creatures only “ONE” is human … only “ONE!”
And when God made us as human, He put criticism in the “terms & conditions” part. So how can we avoid that … how can?
Maybe you’re also thinking: “Come on, I didn’t do anything wrong to anyone in my life then why?” Look, expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are good is like expecting the bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian … come on dear!
So, shrug off what the whole world is buzzing about you. I believe if you ever come to know what they think about themselves, you’ll get more horrified. Remember, what we feel for anything isn’t important, what we do with those feelings is most important!
Dropped Out? So What!
Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school. ~ Albert Einstein
Academically how rich you are? Dropped out or not enough to be excited? If yes, so what! Still you have the potential to be something significant … something influential, like:
Benjamin Franklin: One of the founders of The United States of America; co-author and co-signer of the U.S. Declaration of Independence. You name it, what he wasn’t: polymath, printer, satirist, political theorist, politician, scientist, inventor, civic activist, statesman, soldier, and diplomat.
Nothing That Is Perfect Breathes
Posted by Roy in Attitude, Perfection on January 11, 2010
Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.
~ Anthem, Leonardo Cohen
Have you ever thought that the world itself isn’t perfectly rounded? Right, there is nothing as perfect except perfect intentions.
Most important, nothing that is perfect breathes.
Being perfect is about to look at the mirror and feel proud that you didn’t let yourself down. Being perfect means doing your task with everything you could have— not a single thing that you could have done.
That’s it, when you give your every thought, every passion and every effort, as best you can, with every possible joy in your heart, friends, then you do a perfect job.
6 Rules: How To Guide A Happy Relationship?
Posted by Roy in Communication, Love, Relationship on January 1, 2010
Maybe the pessimist will say, “If Titanic can sink then what is a relationSHIP?” It’s my advice to them: “Please, shut up!” Maybe a relationship can be hit with some cyclic waves but still it can sail through, having happy ending. Here are the SIX rules to guide your relationSHIP to the satisfying destination what I call “ACCEPT.”
A [ATTRACTION]: Nothing comes closer if they are not attracted to each other. In science it’s the opposite but in real-life, it’s both—sometimes opposite, sometimes similarity. Find out what attracts you in that person, appreciate it and find new ways to make it more attractive.
You Ain’t A Failure; You Just Failed At Something
There are two ways we can tag failure in our life. First: “I’m a failure!” Second: “I failed at something!”
When we say, “I am a failure,” it indicates: “I’m the reason of this … it’s all because of me.” But when we say, “I failed at something,” it indicates: “It’s not me … it’s my action that fails. It’s not me!”
We all have failed many times although we mayn’t remember. We fell down the first time we tried to walk or ride a bi-cycle. We almost drowned when the first time we tried to swim, didn’t you?
Just think, did you hit a sixer the first time you swung the cricket bat? Forget about yourself, think about the following cricket greats.
Challenge + Response = Outcome
So tenderly your story is
Nothing more than what you see
Or what you’ve done or will become
Standing strong do you belong
In your skin; just wondering
~ Clint Eastwood (Jamie Cullum)
If it would become possible to buy any dream you wanted, would you try to buy? If yes, then why you never worked to achieve it?
Okay, I’m giving you the answer.
You force yourself not to go for your dream because you know—life is never easy for those who dream. It’ll knock you down; push you back and make you the reason to be laughed for.
Then your inner-voice whispers to you, “Better, don’t try.”
THE ATTITUDE
You know dear, there is a formula:
C + R = O
(CHALLENGE + RESPONSE = OUTCOME)
To Understand—TRY Listening Better
Posted by Roy in Attitude, Communication on November 11, 2009
Nobody can’t make things happen until they can make others understand what they want to do and why. Yes, communicate well with people shortens the gap between where you are and where you want to be in today’s life.
But remember, communication is more than just talk.
Listening is as important to communication as speaking. So today, I’m going to share how to become a better listener. Here are the most important techniques:
- Show interest. (“Really …” “Then what you did ….”)
- Encourage the speaker to develop competence and motivation to solve the problem independently. (“I can feel it, when I have faced it I did ….”)
- Listen to clarify. (“Do you mean …?” “Is this the problem?”)
- Listen to be neutral. (“I see.” “Uh-huh.” “That’s interesting.”)
- Listen to bring discussion into focus. (“These are the ideas you have mentioned …” “Your priorities are …”
Rejection: Why We Should Love It?
A research has shown, by the time we reach 18, we hear the word “NO” over 1,30,000 times. Just remember your childhood. How many times you have been told, “don’t do this, don’t do that,” “you’ll be never amount of anything” and on-and-on, list goes.
It’s true for most of us, growing up hearing lot of negative things. Most of us were taught that some people were just better than us and there was nothing we could do about it. But some point of our life we have to break that jinx, we have to break our comfort zone and have to look for some benefit in every rejection. Read the rest of this entry »
Tough Times! Huh, How Tough They Are?
Picture this!! You are just eight and only for 20 dollars, you are singing in local clubs because there is often a shortage of food and money in your household. Yes, it is when you are just eight.
When you reach the age 13, your family has lost their home and for the shelter, you are spending your nights under the tress with your mother and other siblings. Added to your trauma, before you reach 20, you find that you have lost your parents. Then to take care of your siblings, you start working as a sales-girl in McDonald’s.
Now tell me, from there, how far you can visualize yourself – how far? You know the answer. But Shania Twain, from there, raised herself to the Grammy winning singer-songwriter. Read the rest of this entry »
Serious Lessons From Not So Serious Joker
The Dark Knight not only has brought the strongest part from Batman, it has also brought some serious thoughts from the Joker. However, the-not-so-serious Joker smilingly threatened not to be serious but there were some serious thoughts Joker gave us to think about. Let’s take a look:
“I don’t want to kill you. What would I do without you? You make me complete.” – The Joker to Batman
What we really look as the challenge, it’s not a challenge – it’s hurdles. It helps us to measure how stronger we are … it helps us to look where we can grow more. Yes, it’s the hardship that builds our character. What’s success? It only reveals that character. It’s the challenge that trains us to embrace the success properly. Really, it’s the challenge which makes us complete.
“If you are good at something don’t do it for free” – The Joker to Salvatore Maroni Read the rest of this entry »
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